Loyalty has been defined as “a very personal and powerful form of faithfulness”. When you got married you also ‘signed a contract’, so to speak – on paper and hearts. You may have other relationships, friends, siblings, etc., where you feel a sense of loyalty.
The benefits of being loyal far outweigh what you think you might receive by not being loyal. Very often, the temptations to be disloyal start from an outside source that we have allowed ourselves to be exposed to. In our marriages, it can come from a ‘listening’ ear (in the form of telephone calls, texts, social media, or a work mate) to the problems we could be having with our mate. The same thing can happen with friendships, and other family relationships. Disloyalty can come in the form of physical disloyalty or emotional disloyalty.
Working through the situation, finding a way to cope, better understand and stick to it, is almost always the best way. Face the problems, talk things out, explore coping strategies. Practice self-control and self-sacrifice.
Three things I’ve found are wonderful benefits of loyalty are:
Longevity. The same idea applies to marriage. It is only when we persist with loyalty in our marriage that we see the power of what that loyalty does to us, our mate, and the relationship. As time goes by, and with each struggle we cope with together, we build another unbroken link in the process. Look back on the time and things you’ve already successfully coped with in different aspects of your life and meditate on them. Your emotional and mental health, and physical health will benefit as well, because your conscience will be clear and you will be building emotional and mental strength. Since our emotional, mental and physical health are all tied in together, all will benefit. It helps us live healthy lifestyles.
Mutual trust. The longer we show loyalty to the important people, activities, and processes in our lives, the more trust we build. This could mean our customers and team members — will trust us, and the more we can trust them. This could mean our marriage mates — will trust us, and the more we can trust them. We build relationships by mutual trust – in almost every area of life, be it family, work associates, friends, and home business. By staying loyal, being dependable, solid in our resolve, and self-sacrificing, we show over a period of time to others and to ourselves that we can be trusted, and that moves the other people in our lives to be loyal too. We sharpen each other for loyalty. We become mentors to each other, helpers and cheerleaders.
Experiencing the growth. Only by being loyal and sticking it out, can you begin to see, witness and experience what you and those around you can become and do. If we give up and give in to temptation to search elsewhere, look to the side, succumb to doubt, dwell on the negative, and ultimately become disloyal, thereby destroying what trust there was, what could have been will never be. In today’s world, many people are short tempered, disloyal, have short attention spans, are dishonest, and we can become the same, if we don’t work hard on not being those things. Many people never reach or see the full potential of their relationships in their home businesses, marriages, families, friendships, and other relationships and endeavors because they have not worked on being loyal. Do not despair. Do it and reap the benefits.
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