Sometimes we have to say “No” just to survive. Why do I say that? I say that because there are many situations in life where saying no to a request or appeal is crucial to the survival of our marriage, business, friendship, spiritual health, and many other important things. How so?
Take for example, the young couple whose in-laws on both sides continue to interfere with the new marriage. They don’t mean to be intrusive, but nevertheless, that is what happens. Neither the young husband or wife know how to say no to their respective parents, and they argue with each over the others’ parents. What is in jeopardy? Their marriage.
What can they do?
They can sit down with each other at a time when both of them are calm and discuss the situation in a loving and reasonable way, trying to find helpful solutions where they can involve both sets of parents in their lives, within limitations. Then they can discuss these things with their parents, setting the boundaries, and lovingly saying “No”, when those boundaries are threatened to be crossed.
When we work with a team, we need to be in constant communication with them about their progress, activities and achievements. That takes time and individual team members may need more attention than others. This may cause us to take more time with one than another, or take precious time from income producing activities. Team communication and income producing activities are both essential to the survival of your business.
What can we do?
We may need to say “No” to spending excessive time with individual team members at certain times, and schedule a one-on-one with them at a time when it does not interfere with our other important activities. Keep the appointment, set a time limit, but strive to help that person with their needs.
This is just two examples, but it gives an idea of some of the areas in our lives where we may need to learn to say “No” more.
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